2 Corinthians 13:5 Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves. Know ye not your own selves, how that Jesus Christ is in you, except ye be reprobates?

If you find it difficult to trust others, perhaps the issue stems from not trusting yourself. We had a life before Christ and for many of us that life was full of failures. We broke trust, we acted selfishly, and we acted in ways that were contrary to our new nature. We know what we were and we do not get over it simply by saying “I am changed.” First change must happen.

We have to prove to ourselves that we are changed in walking by faith. Much of what we do in walking by faith leaves a new recent history. As we look back in examination of action, motivation, and results; do not look too far into the past. It is our recent past that proves us, not our distant past.

Yes we stumble, we are not yet perfect. Failing in walking by faith is a learning opportunity.  We should not speak to our inner man with negative speech. Those words are lies and do not encourage the new creation you are in Christ. This old man was weak, stupid, beggarly, selfish, arrogant, and willful. Such self-talk does not befit the victorious warrior we are today. Confidence comes from Christ who abides in us.

Romans 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

The worst kind of condemnation is self-condemnation because you fail to trust yourself in Christ.