Ephesians 5:21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
Yesterday I confessed that I have trust issues. This makes it difficult for me to be a friend. I have had difficulty in doing as urged in Ephesians 5:21. It was said of me that I am a difficult person. Most people do not know why and even if they understood they would still find it difficult to deal with a brother who has trust issues.
One of the things I recognized in my walk with Christ is the need for an accountability partner. Being one who needs to trust but has no skills in trust. The demands placed on an accountability partner become just that more difficult. I see things a certain way. If he didn’t see it my way, then it fed my trust issues and just made things worse.
Gratefully a pastor set me up with just the right partner. I tested him, that’s for sure. But grace won out and his patience has been rewarded with a great brother in the Lord. Not me, him. I still have trust issues.
What helped was an eye opening conversation about being subject one to another. The Lord was there leading the conversation as always when a simple truth awoke in me. The subject of a sentence is what is being talked about. If I make him the subject of the conversation and he makes me the subject of the conversation, then we are being subject, one to another.
The first issue of trust making has to be in showing you are interested in the person in front of you. If I know that you have my best interest at heart, trust is built.
Trust is a bridge built from both sides.
I receive that word, dear brother, as well as other things you have stated and confessed this week. I will try harder to work from my side of the bridge. I value you very much! Thanks for your patience with me.
It is you Fred who has been patient with me.
And I (we) have benefited. Our gracious Father deals in multiplication. When 2 people are blessed, God can’t contain Himself, so the blessing gets broadcast all around. Thank you Lord for your BIG heart!!!!