Mark 10:5 And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.

This is Jesus reply when the Pharisees tried to trap Him using questions about marriage. I choose to avoid all the lessons and mistakes of that issue and listen to what Jesus says here in His root cause response. Laws are written and precepts are given because of the condition of our hearts.

If we all loved God and one another perfectly, from a good heart, we would not require constraints. We would all do what is right in the sight of the Lord. We are not perfect in heart, so the constraints are put into place.

How about our relationship with our betrothed, Jesus? Do you love Him perfectly? Sadly no, as much as we try, because we have not yet been perfected. We will not come to the wedding feast without first being perfected.

Revelation 21:11 Having the glory of God: and her light was like unto a stone most precious, even like a jasper stone, clear as crystal;

Because we have not yet been perfected we live with constraints. What constrains you? The law?

Job 32:18 (ESV) For I am full of words; the spirit within me constrains me.

The Word of God is like a heart conditioner and must be applied daily to keep the heart tender and not allowed to harden.