Isaiah 29:13 Wherefore the Lord said, Forasmuch as this people draw near me with their mouth, and with their lips do honour me, but have removed their heart far from me, and their fear toward me is taught by the precept of men:

We who are in Christ, why do we not expect to be treated as the Lord was treated? Man will say one thing to our face but do another when we are not looking. How do we react when we learn the truth of their abuses? I will not speak to examples here. You can choose for yourselves how you feel and react. I want to point to what the Lord did in the very next verse.

Isaiah 29:14 Therefore, behold, I will proceed to do a marvellous work among this people, even a marvellous work and a wonder: for the wisdom of their wise men shall perish, and the understanding of their prudent men shall be hid.

A marvelous work and a wonder is what the Lord did. He confounded their expectations. He did not react as man reacts, He is better than that. Conventional wisdoms say that man reacts in the manner you are probably thinking about. They are confounded, their understanding hidden, because the Lord has a better way to deal with abusers.

Matthew 5:44b pray for them which despitefully use you

This does a few things within your own reality which will help you deal with the abuse. Number one, when you take the high ground there is a protective advantage for your soul. Further attacks upon your soul become more difficult. Number two, it places the reactions to events in the heavenly realm where the Lord is better able to exact a just resolution to those event. Number three and perhaps the most beneficial for us is obedience of faith. This is what the Lord has asked of us and with obedience of faith comes a clear conscience and a peaceful mind.

I understand it isn’t natural, but can be practiced. Practice makes perfect.