Job 19:14 English Standard Version (ESV) My relatives have failed me, my close friends have forgotten me.

Human relationships are complicated. Here is a sad truth. Sometimes we do not know how much we care about another person until we fail them.

While we all want to feel reliable, self-interests often interfere with performance. We get “busy” and lose track of time. We get “immersed” and lose awareness of others. We get “hungry” and forget our partner’s needs.

Placing those words “in quotes” implies that there is more to those words that what is said. We must see ourselves in those moments as being that kind of person. We all do it to some degree. Even being mindful is no guarantee that it will not happen again. We are after all flesh.

Genesis 2:23 English Standard Version (ESV) Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”

Hurt the ones we love and we hurt ourselves. We should weep when we fail others but if we do not we did not love them as God intended.

Having watched many marriages fail over the years they all seemed to have the same common flaw. God did not bring them together and join them in marriage.

We all are flesh and we will fail from time to time but the ability to get over it and make things right is founded in godly relationships, marriage or otherwise.

We use find sounding words like “committed 100%”, but if that were the case we would lose self and that which God has created us to be would be swallowed up by the other.

We were meant to help each other be all that God wants us to be, not what we want.